STEADINESS
"I'm always on the lookout for anything dodgy.
I carefully consider my options and take my time to make sure the product is legit and that I get the best deal"
FEELING
FOCUS
TO SURVIVE IN THE WORLD, I MUST:
be safe
have meaningful relationships
have integrity
have a supportive environment
PATTERNS
HOW I SHOW UP
I focus on helping and cooperating with others for the success of the group.
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I put others’ needs first.
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I need time to make sure the decision is right for everyone. I panic if made to go too fast.
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I am a natural collaborator that likes to reach consensus and create win-win situations.
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I am patient with others, listening attentively before responding to their needs.
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I rarely get angry or excited and try to maintain a peaceful and harmonious environment.
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I seriously consider the thoughts and feelings of others, trying to empathise with their situation.
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I am considerate and cooperative when I work with others.
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I’m uncomfortable around people that are aggressive or hostile.
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I am happy taking direction when it is from a leader I trust.
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I’m here to maintain harmony in the environment through supporting others succeed
Accommodation, consistent performance, offering support
INFLUENCING STRATEGY
Modesty, passive resistance, compromise, putting others first
OVERUSES
Listens to others' perspectives; keeps their own needs to themselves
CONFLICT STYLE
CORE
DRIVERS
Stability
relationships
compassion
fairness
loyalty
security
integrity
predictability
CORE
FEARS
Change
loss of stability
offending others
letting people down
being used or ripped off
dishonesty
betrayal
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MOTIVATORS
I WANT TO...
Cultivate harmony and stability in my environment.
Maintain the status quo and control of the environment.
Play a supporting role on the team and stay out of the spotlight.
Facilitate and enable teamwork and cooperation.
Receive regular feedback.
Form long term relationships with others.
Help the team succeed (rather than individual success).
Feel accepted and valued by others.
Responding to difficult situations with empathy and compassion.
Respond thoughtfully after listening attentively.
ENERGISERS
I'M ENERGISED WHEN...
I’m asked to help others.
My colleagues build a relationship with them over time.
I receive verbal appreciation of my contributions to the team.
People value my guidance.
STRESSORS
I STRUGGLE WITH...
Having to quickly adapt to change or unclear expectations.
High level, global goals rather than detailed instruction.
Promoting myself or centre of attention.
Multitasking.
Having to work to a tight deadline.
Confronting others or having a difficult conversation.
Making decisions on behalf of other people without much group input.
Engaging in competition with others.
Over-accomodating others at the expense of my own needs.
DRAINERS
I'M DRAINED WHEN...
I feel like I have nothing to offer the team.
My colleagues are ungrateful for the work I do.
My peers reject my help.
My team prioritise working efficiently and autonomously over collaboration.
STRENGTH
Making myself available to help.
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Following up by checking back on a regular basis.
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Patience and understanding with others.
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Responding to questions thoughtfully.
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Asking for feedback at regular intervals.
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Being attentive to others’ needs and concerns.
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Putting others at ease and fostering a cooperative culture.
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Making others feel safe, heard, and included.
Dependable and reliable.
WEAKNESS
Not being direct when communicating negative information.
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Being too passive when assertiveness is necessary.
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Avoiding confrontation and not giving feedback to others who may need it.
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Delaying decisions involving interpersonal conflict.
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Over-trusting others that may take advantage of my supportive nature.
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Putting my own needs last.
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Allowing small problems to grow before addressing them.
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Taking constructive criticism personally.
ON THE ROCKS
I'LL BREAK UP WITH YOU IF...
There’s too much
drama/conflict.
I feel like I don’t belong.
There’s too much change.
I feel uncertain.
I feel unsupported.
HOW YOU'LL
KNOW
ITS COMING
YOU WON'T
I'LL SUFFER IN SILENCE
WITH ME
HOW TO
COMMUNICATE
Patient and diplomatic
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Analytical, detail focus
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Reserved
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Preference for written communication
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Uncomfortable with addressing negative topics and criticising
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Agreeable and affirming
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Calm, steady pace in dialogue
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Authentic, detailed, warm and friendly
TONE
Detailed, expressive and personal
STYLE
FOR ME
HOW TO
DESIGN
Give me opportunities to create and maintain relationships with others
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Provide specific, detailed information structured in a logical way
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Help me feel in control of my situation
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Provide opportunities for me to help others
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Grant me time and space to make decisions
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Give me a lot of lead time for upcoming change so I can prepare myself.
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Ease me into new experiences - help me adapt at my own pace
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Provide clear feedback on my progress and performance
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Give me opportunities to seek and receive feedback from others
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Give me awareness of my team’s status, problems and how I can help
Hep me collaborate and participate in teamwork
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Appreciate and recognise my efforts
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Allow me to focus on one thing at a time
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Don’t make me rush - I need time to process
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Help me attend to my own needs and tasks - which I often overlook with my focus on helping others
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Recognise me as a person and my personal goals